How Easy Are You?
Wanted: One needy, guarded, intense, high-maintenance woman with a bunch of baggage.
These are the terms used for women who “intimidate” men, eh? I’ve heard that.
Never understood that, myself.
I want a woman with such depth I cannot touch the ground when she’s held in my arms.
To my mind,
- “Needy” just means you’re honest about wanting connection.
- “Guarded” means you only allow in people safe enough to have earned it.
- “Intense” means you have a heart that can burn with passion.
- “High-maintenance” for one man means demands on his time. For this man, it means more time together with the person I’m in love with.
- And “baggage” is proof you’ve survived hard times and stayed kind anyway. That’s much more impressive to me than a woman who’s led an untested life.
Behind the Wires
Personal Notes
“I’ve known women who try to be ‘easy’ in order to not ward a man off. And maybe it works with some men? But ‘easy’ is for the people who aren’t planning on staying. It’s for those who are chasing experiences rather than a real person.
I’d rather have a partner of intricate complexities.
I want the woman who has had to be hard to meet the world at times, but chose to return to softness when she was safe. The sort of woman I want to become hard for, so she can continue to stay soft. But she isn’t brittle—she can share the burden when life gives us both something big enough we need to get through together.
