Ice, Strawberries, and Motor Oil

I thought I could work it out.I thought all I needed was to find “The” answer.I thought if I tried hard enough…I could change us through the will of my want.⠀But that was the trap.The outside world is not mine to command—only my inside one is.⠀When a relationship ended, I didn’t just lose “us.”See, I…

I’ve spent years asking women for a level of depth I wasn’t brave enough to give back. I used to be the stoic one. Or, at least, I thought it was stoicism. Sometimes it’s repression wrapped up in an ego burrito. I thought that by sitting on my wants and staying “patient,” I was being…

A funny thing happened to me a long time after my last breakup.⠀I did the thing you do… got one of those human-finding apps where you judge the next love of your life through a ceaseless stream of thumb-flickable faces.⠀So, I created a dating profile,and then I stepped back.I Looked at it.I realized…⠀…the man being…

I spent years trying to “fix” the relationship. I worked at it so hard I didn’t see the trap:I was trying so hard to change the outside world—because I didn’t know how to handle the one I actually could control.⠀When a relationship ended, I didn’t just lose “us.”I realized I had used the intimate comfort,the…

Wanted: One needy, guarded, intense, high-maintenance woman with a bunch of baggage. These are the terms used for women who “intimidate” men, eh? I’ve heard that. Never understood that, myself. I want a woman with such depth I cannot touch the ground when she’s held in my arms. To my mind, Behind the Wires Personal…

Not all weight is a burden.Sometimes it’s proof—that she could finally let go.A man feels the absence of that.