Don’t Date Promises—Date Patterns

I’ve watched people cling to apologies because hope feels safer than grief.
But grief is honest. It frees you.
Hope is beautiful, but not every situation—or every person—deserves yours.

I’ve watched people cling to apologies because hope feels safer than grief.
But grief is honest. It frees you.
Hope is beautiful, but not every situation—or every person—deserves yours.
Some things stir you for a moment—and fade.Others settle into you with comfort.They don’t announce themselves.They just stay. And that’s what matters.
Living by the ocean, this is the sign I look for every year that winter has finally broke. The coast is waking up today! The first ribbon of water opening as the ice breaks and separates, and the first of the fleet being moved into place. The lobsters are coming out of hibernation, and the…
𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐲.𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞.𝘈 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘮𝘦? 𝘐 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘷𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘮𝘦. Because it’s not just how she looks.It’s how she sees me.How she touches like she means it.How her closeness doesn’t just invite—but claims. If you’re a woman who’s ever given that to someone—If you’re a woman…
Sometimes I think about the possibility that you’re already out there.Not searching. Just… living.Going about your days with a soft ache you can’t quite name.Maybe you don’t know I exist. Maybe you never will.But I’m here. Quietly. Open.If you’re here too, that’s enough for now.
I had to buy ice and strawberries and motor oil today.None of that felt romantic.But if I’d been buying them for someone else, it might’ve.
A funny thing happened to me a long time after my last breakup.⠀I did the thing you do… got one of those human-finding apps where you judge the next love of your life through a ceaseless stream of thumb-flickable faces.⠀So, I created a dating profile,and then I stepped back.I Looked at it.I realized…⠀…the man being…