Fixing My Face in the Driveway

To me, healthy love doesn’t look like a cycle of panic and grand gestures. It looks like a steady rhythm of small, ordinary evidences. It’s the regular heartbeats of showing each other we’re each’s other in all the small ways. Not a dozen roses because I’m “in trouble,” but materializing back at the cart while…

𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗲𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘂𝗹, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘻𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘨𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘷𝘰𝘤𝘢𝘥𝘰.But, perfection isn’t the absence of missing things.It’s the presence of what is, that matters.𝑨𝒗𝒐𝒄𝒂𝒅𝒐𝒔 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑. 𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝒔𝒐 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔 𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒅.

𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝘁𝗼𝘂𝗰𝗵, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱𝘀.𝘕𝘰𝘵 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘲𝘶𝘪𝘦𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦.𝘕𝘰𝘵 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴 𝘪𝘵 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘶𝘵.𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘂𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗻.

Being single can feel like you’re off-script.Like you’re supposed to be building something with someone, and instead you’re just… existing.But being single has a purpose beyond “waiting for the right person.”It’s a time to meet yourself as a whole person—not half of a couple.Time to notice your patterns without the fog of chemistry.To learn what…

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘆𝘀You don’t have to explain everything right away.You don’t have to shrink the ache down to something digestible.You don’t even have to be okay yet.You just have to show up honestly.And they don’t flinch.They don’t rush to fix it.They just stay.That’s what it looks like when someone can hold…

𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐲.𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞.𝘈 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘮𝘦? 𝘐 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘷𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘮𝘦. Because it’s not just how she looks.It’s how she sees me.How she touches like she means it.How her closeness doesn’t just invite—but claims. If you’re a woman who’s ever given that to someone—If you’re a woman…